Jane Janeczko on
October 18, 2013
I recently came across a Huffington Post Style article about how more plus-size women prefer the term “curvy” over plus-size.
This statistic comes from a poll that the retailer Sonsi facilitated on their website. This poll asked 1,000 women which term they preferred and the results came in somewhat split with respondents saying 28 percent prefer “curvy,” 25 percent prefer “plus-size,” and 25 percent prefer “full-figured.”
All of those terms basically mean the same thing to me, so personally I do not have any preference. When I’m discussing fashion, I usually use the term “plus-size,” since that is the official fashion terminology for a US size 14+, whereas the official terminology for women US size 0-12 is “standard-size.” However, when I’m just describing my physical body, I don’t specify at all. It’s simply my body. It’s larger than some and smaller than some, but it’s just my body. I don’t feel a need to throw “curvy” or “full-figured” in front of it.
Curvy, plus-size, full-figured… no matter what word you use, Nadia Aboulhosn looks incredible. Credit: Nadia Aboulhosn
Jane Janeczko on
October 15, 2013
I distinctly remember watching an episode of America’s Next Top Model in which there was a plus-size contestant (I’m 90 percent sure it was Toccara Jones) who had been put in a shiny, sparkly dress for one of the shoots. There were the usual criticisms, such as not enough smeyesing, etc., and then there was a long discussion about how this dress was a poor choice for this shoot on the stylist’s part, especially for the plus-size contestant, since shiny fabrics always make you look bigger when you’re photographed.
Personally, I am a huge fan of shiny fabrics and of anything that sparkles. Therefore, when I see a great plus-size dress with a subtle gold glimmer like the Nezetta Cocktail Dress in Navy/Gold, there are no so-called fashion rules that are going to stop me from rocking it.
The Nezetta dress comes in black and gold too.
I picked this dress out with the intention of wearing it for some slightly fancier evenings out and I daresay it fit the bill. I wanted to really glam this dress up, but it could easily be dressed down for a slightly more casual evening out if you paired it with a motorcycle jacket and a pair of short, chunky ankle boots. The cute belt is included with the dress, but it could easily be worn without the belt as well, although I personally love the little gold detail at the waist.
The Nezetta dress also comes in a black/gold combination if you’re looking for a different color palette.
The ruched draping actually elongates your form and makes your legs look longer.
The ruching up the front of the dress and the back of the dress gives a body-con look, which is very trendy (and dare I say “sexy”), but the material has a decent amount of stretch, so it is still very comfortable.
The Nezetta dress is fully-lined, like most IGIGI dresses, so you don’t have to worry about showing any panty lines or wobbly bits.
In honor of this sparkly, shiny plus-size dress, I decided to put together a few other fashion rules that us plus-size ladies are told we can’t pull off, along with a true-or-false analysis.
1. Don’t wear clingy fabrics. FALSE – If you want to really show off your curves, a clingy material is the easiest way to do that. If you’re feeling particularly self-conscious about not wanting to show any lumps or bumps, the easiest way to camouflage that is with well-placed ruching,lined garments, and shapewear.
2. Big patterns make you look larger. FALSE – Big patterns make a big statement. Depending on where the pattern falls on your figure, they can actually be incredibly flattering, and even if they aren’t strictly flattering, there is nothing that says you can’t wear a crazy, funky, geometric pattern just because you like it.
3. Stay away from skinny jeans. FALSE - Skinny jeans are awesome. They are cute, comfy, and are basically made to be worn with tunics that are perfect for tucking into jeans, so they are absolutely perfect for fall. They are not the unequivocally most flattering jean style for everyone, but does that mean you can’t still wear them and look awesome? Nope.
4. Any intentionally oversized garments will just make you look larger. FALSE – It will look like you’re wearing an oversized garment. Oversized styles are really in right now and they essentially look the same on everyone. Are they the absolutely most flattering styles in the world? No, but if worn with the right accessories and coordinating pieces, they can look incredibly chic.
The boat neckline with the below-knee length and slight cling brought to mind a blinged-out Audrey Hepburn vibe for me so I paired it with a true, red lip and black pumps.
Whenever you’re feeling a little insecure or unsure about a new outfit that you’re putting together, the only really important question that you need to worry about is: “Does this make me feel beautiful?” Because if that is true, nothing else really matters. If you’re really struggling, however, you can always hit me up on Twitter or Instagram and send me some awesome selfies.
Jane Janeczko on
October 11, 2013
It’s okay to want to be sexy. There. I said it.
No matter what your size or your age, it’s okay to want to be sexy, and it is definitely achievable, too. However, as a plus-size woman, when I put on a slinky dress or a short skirt, I feel that I am consistently put in a box – a BBW box – or at least that’s what commenters seem to tell me.
Now, for those of you who don’t know, BBW means “Big Beautiful Woman.” Well, that is true, I suppose: I am big, I am beautiful, and I am a woman. It should seem like a compliment, right? The problem where the title BBW is concerned, is that this unfortunate acronym tends to lump all plus-size women together in the same category, thereby turning all plus-size women and their bodies into a fetish, which I absolutely abhor. It is not a fetish to appreciate my body, nor is it a fetish to love me.
When a woman who is a size four dresses up for a night-out and snaps a picture of her outfit to post on Instagram, she does not receive any demeaning nicknames online, or messages from guys with usernames like “proudchubbychaser16.” Plus-size bodies, on the other hand, are either overtly sexualized or completely ignored. There is no in between, which makes it incredibly challenging for plus-size women to put together a sexy look without wondering about what type of attention it will attract.
For a night look I paired the Kaori Infinity Dress with black heels and pink and orange statement earrings.
My body is beautiful because it is my body. I would feel the same about it whether I was a size 2 or a size 32 (for reference, I am a size 14). All women are different and some women embrace the title of BBW (and they are well within their rights to do so), but at the same time, the women who hate the title of BBW also need to be respected. I hate to say it, but anything that could also be equated with a category on an adult website is not a moniker that I personally want to be associated with.
Now, with all that commentary out in front of me, I have to admit the IGIGI Kaori Infinity Dress makes me feel both beautiful and sexy.
The boat neckline is flattering and chic.
When I first saw the dress on IGIGI’s website, I had a feeling that it could be a great going-out dress. It looked comfortable, it is clearly convertible, since you can alter both the sleeves and the hemline with ease, and it’s black – it’s basically my ideal garment.
I styled the dress two different ways to transition it from day to night. For my night look (above) I chose to keep it somewhat simple and kept my hair up to show off my pink and orange statement earrings and threw on a high heel. My favorite part of this dress is that you can adjust the length for knee-length to a more tunic style by simply scooching the hemline up a little bit. As you can see, I went with more of a tunic length.
For my day look I wore the belt that comes with the dress, a great wide faux leather belt that adds great structure and knee length boots. It is brutal finding stylish, high-quality, wide calf boots. The pair that I am wearing has a hidden stretch panel with elastic that allows the boots to comfortably bend around my calf. However, it took many visits to the mall and returned mail orders to find this pair. Wide calf for some designers simply means an inch or two wider than their straight size boots, which as anyone with thicker calves can attest, will not actually fit a customer with wide calves. Unfortunately, the designers that offer wide calf boots rarely have multiple options available.
I firmly believe that a good pair of riding boots is necessary for any closet and these wide calf boots fit the bill.
One of my friends told me that she felt self-conscious boot shopping for wide calf boots because there would consistently be only one or two options at the various department stores she tried. Plus, she thought that the elastic bands that stretch the boots made it look even more obvious that she was wearing a wide calf boot. If you don’t want to wear a wide calf boot there are other options. Try ankle boots, a suede boot with slouch or a mid-calf boot for a similar effect. It doesn’t matter what you wear as long as you feel good wearing it.
What do you wear when you want to feel sexy and confident? Do you have a go-to dress or outfit? Share in the comments!
Jane Janeczko on
October 9, 2013
I really, really dislike the whole concept of “professional attire.” I feel like it’s an excuse for people to wear their most tired gray polyester pants and worn-out white collared shirts. I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with a white collared shirt (I have about seven), but they do require an extra bit of work to make them special, and those dishwater gray pants are not cutting it.
I feel like a great dress is the antithesis of a boring work uniform, and every once in while you’ll find a dress that you can wear straight from work to after-work cocktails. A sheath dress, or in this case, a modified sheath dress, took the place of my metaphorical polyester pants and gave me some swagger when I rolled into work Monday morning.
If I could have this color palette take over every aspect of my life I would be okay with that. In retrospect, this dress may have been slightly too alluring for work, but I felt so great in it I decided to ignore that fact.
As I have said before, when it comes to a perfect palette for every woman, jewel tones absolutely knock it out of the park. So when I saw the Sapphira Plus Size Dress in Larkspur Combo the purples, blues, and dark reds were calling to me. I have found myself being drawn to sheath dresses lately since I’ve been spending my days working in a professional office in Manhattan, and I just love the inherent power and structure to sheath dresses. They are just perfect for an office setting: feminine, yet totally in charge. However, I’ve had very little success when it comes to fit because all of the dresses that I’ve tried recently have been boxy to the extreme, and I have no desire to look like Spongebob Squarepants.
So when I clicked order on this beauty, I was more than a little nervous as to how the fit would turn out. I’d been feeling kind of like a one-trick pony lately when it came to dress styles, since I’d been wearing only empire-waisted, skater-length dresses. While that style is supremely flattering on me (and on all-women who have hourglass figures), there is definitely something to the phrase, “Too much of a good thing,” and I hadn’t been having fun while getting dressed. Instead, it was getting kind of monotonous.
Basically, I needed an IGIGI injection into my wardrobe stat, and this sheath dress was too pretty to turn down. However, when I ripped open my IGIGI box, I quickly realized that this dress is not a true sheath, but rather a modified one, with an extremely flattering draping detail at my waist to nip in my figure a little bit and get rid of the ultra-boxy profile that I had been struggling with. Plus, the material, a Poly/Elastane blend fabric, glides over my curves like butter and feels absolutely amazing on. It really could not be more comfortable.
I originally styled this dress with a short, cropped black blazer in addition to my classic black pumps, but the weather has been so warm lately that I threw off the blazer before leaving the house.
Since the pattern on this dress is so elaborate, I knew that too many accessories would be a bit obnoxious, so I kept it simple with silver studs and black pumps. As much as I love accessories (the statement necklaces, they call to me), there’s something really wonderful in just not having to worry about them every now and then and allowing your clothes to speak for themselves without any added adornments. It really is the mark of a well made garment.
I kept it simple with the Sapphira Dress, but how would you style it? Tell me in the comments and, as ever, if you ever have any fashion inquiries, style musings, or just questions about life, you can hit me up on Instagram or Twitter. Fair warning, there will be lots of selfies.
Jane Janeczko on
October 8, 2013
Plus-size fashion bloggers are really important. Okay? I’ve talked, and talked, and talked about their awesomeness. Plus-size bloggers do for plus-size women what straight-size celebrities do for women sizes 0-10: they give us style that we can aspire to and sometimes even blatantly copy. In that same vein, here are some of the most well-known and popular plus-size bloggers to follow, admire, and drool over.
1. Gabi Gregg of the blog GABIFRESH
Gabi could easily be considered the queen bee of the plus-size fashion blogger community. She started her blog, formerly called “Young, Fat, & Fabulous,” in 2008, with the hope that she would be able to showcase her writing skills and her love of fashion. Her blog really blew up in the Summer of 2012, when her “Fatkini” post went viral, which led to her being featured on the Today show and a myriad other women’s mags. She also designed her own swimsuit line with Swimsuits for All this past summer.