Sexy, Sophisticated Plus Size Clothing in sizes 12-32

Dear Bonnie,
Holiday time! So exciting, colorful and filled with fun things to do. I am thrilled to see Nikki Blonsky wearing the sparkling IGIGI.com clothes. Why do people get so depressed at this time of year? Why not just go out and have a hoot?
Elaine

Dear Elaine,
Take some people with you as you celebrate the holidays, someone who has not found their way, yet, to enjoying all there can be at this time of year. Help your gal pals get some energy flowing through them so they can find the parts of the holiday that work. Maybe it is time to drive and see the lights, cook up something special and share it with one person who would appreciate it -- someone known such as a neighbor or unknown such a person who does not anyone to care about them. Go listen to music and let it soak in your pores -- Christmas music, Chanukah music or Kwanza music, all so beautiful. You know how to celebrate. Not everyone does. You go girl! And, maybe, just maybe, you can be the role model for someone who gets down at this time of year.
Wishing you a bountiful life,
BB

Dear Bonnie, I work for a big company and there is the Christmas party. All the guys will bring their adorable girlfriends in sexy clothes. I don't have anyone to bring. I don't want to go but I know that I should go to be part of the festivities and seem like one of the group. How can I make this less horrible for myself?
Linda

Dear Linda,
"Horribilizing," that is anticipating that the company Christmas party will be a terrible experience for you may contribute to making it really bad. Figuring how to make the evening work for you so you can, at the very least, go and be part of the group might include -- take a friend instead of a date (male or female/family member/colleague); going for a short time and making some sensational, super decadent plans for the after party party that you can look forward to doing; become part of the planning committee so you have a role of importance or something to do to keep you busy; bring something of yourself to the party such as making party favors if that would be a kick for you., Make the event a good thing for you or, if that is really not possible, get out of town and visit a friend who loves you so you can have a great weekend with, or without, the party! Wishing you a bountiful life,
BB

Dear Bonnie,
Time for the dreaded airplane travel. The seats don't fit. No food or water can be carried on and none is available. There are long waits. You know the drill. How is a plus size, frequently hungry and thirsty, girl to survive?
Lenore

Dear Lenore,
As Tim Gunn says on "Project Runway," make it work. Plan, process, purchase, punt. Be sure to think ahead about how this is all going to work for you so you can have the best possible time. Get to the airport early so you can stroll and not run. Bring a seat belt extender (easily purchased online) or be sure to ask for one as you board the plane without waiting until you discover that the seat belt does not fit. Process your worries with a friend so you are prepared for whatever is your greatest fear. Purchase food and water at the airport after going through security so you are not worried that you are going to be without any food and stressed out. When all else fails, ask for help, punt, tell whomever that you need whatever. If you ask in the nicest way possible, it is amazing how helpful most people want to be. If you find you have asked the wrong person for help, gather up your strength and go ask someone else! Wishing you a bountiful life,
BB

Dear Bonnie
I want a date for New Year's eve.
Lonnie

Dear Lonnie,
Okay, you want a date for New Year's eve. Ask everyone you know who else wants or needs a date for that night. Go online. Do all the regular things to meet someone. Then, think outside the box. Do you belong to a church, synagogue, club, hang out at a coffee place? Ask the minister, rabbi, club leader, coffee place manager if they know someone who might be up for a New Year's eve date. Sound odd. Not really. Some people just want to get out that night. Go to a singles' party that night, help out at a friend's party if they can invite a date for you, try every thing that anyone suggests to make this happen for yourself. One woman put an advertisement on Craig's list, www,craigslist.com. Another person put up a note at her favorite bookstore that she just wanted a one night date, not a one night stand. Both were successful. Go for it. You can make happen what you want.
Wishing you a bountiful life,
BB